Last year a woman sent me a picture of her and her fiancée on their wedding day. She had purchased two of my e-books and gleefully told me she followed them to the letter, and one year later, presto – she was married.

 I was grateful for her email. Her relationship succeeded partly because she avoided all 3 of the reasons most relationships fail. Once she understood her tendency to tolerate bad behavior (#1), she was able to change her behavior which enabled her to attract a wonderful man as her current husband.

 Here are the 3reasons I shared with her that cause most breakups. See if you can relate to any of these:

3 Reasons For Relationship Failure:

1) Tolerating Bad Behavior.

This occurs when one partner ignores the bad behavior of the other simply to maintain the relationship. Women who tolerate a man who cheats or is abusive fall into this category.

When pressed to explain why they don’t end the relationship they often reply, “Well, I know he does those bad things, but that’s not who he really is. If you got to know him like I do you’d see just how wonderful he can be.” Given enough time, and without training a man to value you, these type of relationships usually end very tragically.

2) Having Unrealistic Expectations

This one affects men just as much as women. It isn’t that they want too much in a partner…attractive, kind, fun to be with. The problem is that the person (or both partners) expects the other to be like this ALL of the time. When things become normal (often referred to as boring) they mistakenly assume that the relationship is broken, when in fact it was merely the normal progress of a healthy and loving relationship.

3) Taking Each Other for Granted

Early in a relationship, everything is easy. It does not require any effort to go out of you way to be kind to your partner when both people are infatuated. Over time, the relationship becomes comfortable and predictable. Everything goes fine until a crisis occurs and there is no emotional intimacy to draw upon. Each partner wants the other to be supportive and both are emotionally bankrupt.

Author: Bob Grant. A Clinically trained Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years experience. Author of These Best-Selling Relationship E-Books:

Learn the simple techniques that can quickly bring your ex girlfriend back See the errors many people make that hurt instead of help the situationSome men just don’t know when they are on to a good thing and their reasons for endingrelationships borderline ridiculous. Too many times men have put this question to theirfriends: how do I get my ex girlfriend back? Honestly, one would think it was usually a woman’s prerogative to change her mind.

My male friends have ended relationships with their girlfriends for silly reasons, to name a few:

1) wearing the wrong type of shoes; or
2) her mother; or
3) because the new barmaid at his favorite bar smiled at him.

Now I can understand number 3 – pretty girls turn heads; and in relation to number 2, there is the dreaded notion that a woman may turn into her mother. However, guys – come on; ending a relationship because of the wrong type of shoes?

If women refused to date men due to their choice of clothes, the human race would have been wiped out by now. There is the saying that behind every well dressed man is a good woman- first his mother and later on his wife!

I always tell my men friends that they need to make an advantages/disadvantages list before choosing to end a relationship. Ask yourself questions like do you find her interesting? Are you attracted to her? Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she look after you? Does she cook for you?

On the disadvantages side, okay, may she nag a little too much. However, guys, maybe if you just accepted the fact that the toilet seat remains up she just might stop with the nagging. She may not want any more than a cuddle and a kiss every single evening, but this does not mean she does not care enough.

Evaluating in writing the good and the bad may seem like a cold and hard fast approach, however there are elements of practicality and logicality in this way. Only after comparing the two sides of the list do you then decide whether a break up is in order.

Putting your thoughts down on paper, for whatever exercise, always helps to clarify a decision that needs to be made. We may regret the breakup and feeling lonely, but loneliness is not enough of a reason to get back together.

However, if you have left your woman and you soon realize that this was a mistake; act fast. Like money, life partners do not grow on trees. Not many women are willing to put up with many things. If she put up with a lot, then why not accept her for her flaws like she had done with you?

Take a leaf out Richard Gere’s book and put some romance back into her life. It’s never too old fashioned to send her flowers; not any random ones, but some of her favorites. Post her a handwritten letter telling her how much you love, appreciate and miss her.

Make a reservation at her favorite restaurant and treat her to a night out. It is quite simple really. Treat her just like the princess you believe her to be. Presuming that you are not a complete and utter disgrace, you will never have to ask friends again about how to get your ex girlfriend back.

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