Are you having trouble getting over a guy?  Whether he dumped you or you broke up with him, letting go of someone who you had a close relationship with is very difficult.  There is a space in your heart as well as a space in your life that is not quickly filled with anything or anyone else.  Yet, people do get over an ended relationship. Eventually.  Here are five steps to getting over a guy you still like.

Let it go!

First, you need to let out the hurt.  Know that it is okay to cry when you are trying to get over a guy.  Some people may choose to keep a journal of their experiences because writing about the pain helps.

One thing that I have seen some people do that seems to be very effective is to write a long letter about the relationship to their ex boyfriend.  Talk about the good and bad times. Talk about the relationship and the ways in which he had hurt you.  Let it all out.  When you have finished writing the letter; burn it.  That’s right.  Do not even think about sending it to your ex.  Instead, let flames consume the letter.  This provides excellent
closure to the relationship.

Decision Time

Next, you have to decide that the relationship is actually over. If you hold on to the thought that he will change and come back to you, you will never get over the guy, and never move on. Do something that symbolises the finality of the relationship. A good example of this is to exchange all of the personal property that you have of the other’s. Never keep the oversized t-shirt of his that you find ever so comfortable sleeping in. Also, if there are things too minor to exchange (like a toothbrush), throw them away. Clear your place of all of his things.  It is a way of clearing him from your life.

Girlfriends

You need to depend on your friends during times like these. Up until meeting your husband, guys may come and go, but your girlfriends are forever. If you have been in a hot and heavy relationship, you may have inadvertently ignored your friends for a long time. Not only will your girls be there for you and help you get over the guy, but reconnecting will be good for your social life.

Also, your girlfriends will have had similar experiences to your break up. Sharing their pain will help you understand that, however bad the hurt you are experiencing, others have survived and you will too.

Find a hobby

You will probably have extra time on your hands now that you have come out of a relationship. You used to spend a lot of time with your ex. Use this time productively to get over the guy. Go to the gym and get your body in shape. Take up a new hobby.

One of the best things you can do during this period is to join a group or a class.  Not only does a class take up the time you would have spent with your ex, but it also introduces you to a new circle of friends. 

Keep going

And, that brings me to my last point, when you want to get over guy, the best thing you can do is move on. Between your old friends, the new friends you make in your class or your new hobby, together with the various activities you do to fill up your time; you will emerge as a new person. 

Moving on is the best way to get over a guy.

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