If you’ve broken up with your partner and you really want her back, sitting back and hoping for the best isn’t a great plan – there are definite ways to be more successful.  Every relationship has its ups and downs, and break-ups can happen, but they need not always be permanent.  These are the five subtle steps which will help you potentially rebuild your bond and show your ex that you still want to be with her. 

 1.  Stay in touch, but at a respectful distance. If she wants space, respect her boundaries and scale back your efforts – although still maintain enough contact to let her know in a subtle way that you still care for her, and want to be part of her world.2.  Keep up casual contact such as email, but don’t bombard her with declarations of love.  It’s vital to maintain regular conversation in order to reignite her interest in you, but only in a friendly, easy-going manner such as “Love, how it is going?” – if you don’t find such dialogue easy then it may be more difficult to succeed in winning her back.

3.  If you want her respect, then stay away from other ladies.  If you find yourself interested in other prospective partners, then it may be time to reconsider getting back with your ex – she may be understanding about it, but if you want her back for good, you need to make sure she is your only focus.

4.  Keep in mind the things which are important to her.  Part of being in a loving relationship is making the effort to celebrate the anniversaries and dates which are special to her – so when you are trying to rebuild that relationship it’s essential to make her feel like a princess.  Find out the events and occasions which are meaningful to her, and use friendly methods like sending letters and cards to let her know she’s in your thoughts.

5.  Try not to feel uncertain about getting in touch.  Casually calling and texting her often – but not every moment of the day – to let her know what’s going on in your life will make her feel more secure about where you are and who you are with, and reassure her that you’re not out with another woman.  Talking regularly will show that you still care about her, and listening to what she’s got to say will rebuild your bond.

Learning how to rekindle your relationship with your ex-girlfriend is never a straightforward process, but there are some crucial pointers available which will lay the groundwork for you to win her back.  Clearly, keeping in touch and communicating regularly is key to reigniting her interest in you, but be sure not to bombard her with messages otherwise you risk putting her off. 

These suggestions are merely the first steps on the path to forming a lasting relationship, the same ones I followed when I wanted to win back the woman I love, and to be frank they didn’t come from me.  When I was struggling to reconnect with my ex-partner I listened to T ‘Dub’ Jackson, who set down a simple, easy-to follow guide called Magic Of Making Up and believe it or not, it worked out magically for our relationship.  Now we are more caring and committed than before.

Noskay:  Author and publisher of many Romance and Relationship Books

Useful Resources:

•  The Magic of Making Up (Get Your Ex Back).

•   500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets